A thought this morning: a large part of the problem in our M was that I am a straight-laced responsibility-holic who tends to be judgmental (I am the classic Good Girl). While at first I believe he was drawn to this (he wanted to become a "better person"), he came to resent it and was sick of feeling bad for never living up to my expectations.
Does that mean my best bet for a 180 is to become free-wheeling and non-judgmental, and to accept all the things he does that I ordinarily wouldn't approve of? Specifically, should I just let him do whatever he wants to do with the OW, and not care?
Me 47, H 39 D 13, S 11 M: 17 years T: 19 years H's PA began: Oct 2012 Bomb: 02/13 Moved to MP: May 2013
