Guess I belong here now...

[sweetbabyred]

Linda, you are so sweet to be checking up on all of our sitches while you're recuperating. I hope that your h wakes up soon and realizes what he's missing out on.

Yes, by the time you get a librarian position, you're usually fairly removed from the books and patrons. I was working as an assistant so I was able to see books as they were checked in or out. I was actually glad when I'd see one I had absolutely no interest in adding to my "to read" list.

Once I saw that Joel and Victoria were going to be there, I purchased my tickets right away. Bishop Jakes is great too-- check out his youtube video "let them walk". It's all about not pining after someone who makes the decision to leave you.

I think the fl woman is just trying to run away from her issues. All of her family and friends live there and I think that she believes everything will be different if she's somewhere new. Of course, we've all seen that you can try to run away, but your relationship issues will continue to follow you unless you work on them.

She makes good money and Texas is one of the areas she could transfer to, so I don't think she's after his money like the last ones, but I just hope that xh doesn't fall into a relationship because he isn't strong enough to tell her that's not what he wants, at least not now.

Xh is acting a little nicer. When I told him about my business trip, he asked who was going to watch my cat (who has never liked him since the day we brought her home from the shelter and the feeling is mutual!) and even volunteered to come to my place a few times to check on her.

What I love about this site is that you and the others on here understand how I feel and aren't pressuring me to go out and find a new guy right away. That divorce doesn't change the feelings you have.

And on my good days, I realize that I'm using this time wisely to learn as much about myself as I can and to become better at communicating so I can be a better partner. Those skills will come in handy in all my relationships, but especially with a future partner, whether it's xh or someone new.