One giant leap forward! - Part 6

[labug]

T, just decide what you want to do and what's best for the kids, not just what's best for you or W. There is no win in this but hopefully you can arrive at a happy medium.

If you know what you want on the travel then tell her and stick to it. Don't waffle on your non-negotiables, just keep repeating what your terms. I would leave some room for negotiation.

Having the kids here after not having them here for two weeks it's easy to forget how stressful S4 can be and I can really sympathize with how hard she will find it during the week.
Obviously it was still her choice to take them so far away from me and live the life she has now and it was her choice very recently to not work at being a proper family.
I know that having them everyday would become the norm and not as stressful as I suddenly find it.

A 4 yr old and a 1 year old are constant motion. I seem to be in the minority here but when my boys were those ages there were days when I couldn't wait for H to walk in the door and I would go hide in the bathroom for an hour or so. I loved my kids dearly and spent lots of time with them but my idea of a vacation was just to be in a quiet room for as long as I wanted, no noise, no activity, no demands.

Why did she move so far away from you?

T, she is the woman you chose to have children with, you will be connected to her in some way until the day you die. If she's a terrible mother, then go for custody of your children.

If not try to maturely work through this so you can both get needs met and make life better for your children.