L, I would first start with "I would like to stay up here. I have every right to be up here, and this is where I feel most comfortable at." Then, after that, if she still has issues, or tries to argue you could try saying something else. She has to realize there are going to be some consequences.

My thread is on the MLC forum... I have been in limbo with my H for a few.months..ugh.. and now he wants to separate and (this time) he seems more sure.

-cp

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.