No, there was no "not allowed" stuff, though I would get glared at sometimes when I was with the others. The problem was that there are 3 rooms for 4 people upstairs. I basically just sleep down here (and work, as my study is here). We always eat meals together when we can - that is important - and fortunately that is downstairs also. It just gets darned lonely when I am down and the others are up in the evenings.
Friend and I are drumming to the setting sun, then going out for dinner after. Not sure I should spill my guts either, but maybe there is a light version. I certainly don't want to burden him or turn him off, plus he is a guy I like a lot. He and his W had a very difficult time in their marriage last year (his W told us so), so maybe there is some shared ground possible here.
We sort of drifted into this upstairs downstairs arrangement. W and D used to sleep downstairs sometimes, and me up... somehow with time it was just me here.
Do you like "you can close the door" solution?
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
