Just found this quote from AnotherStander to 2old, and felt I needed to add it here for me.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Whether you do it or don't do it, you've got to quit worrying about what her reaction is going to be. This isn't a chess game where every little move might lead to victory or defeat. She's a WAS, she's done. Nothing you do right now is going to make an impression on her right NOW (although it might later). You need to have confidence in yourself, do what you think is right and do it with NO expectations because you are confident that you are being true to yourself. If you send a message and you get no reply, you should still be able to think to yourself "well she's a WAS and she's following the WAS script, but what I did was the right thing and I'm glad I did it." Make sense?
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
