BUT, it sounds like this dance has gone on for so long that you are living the cycle over and over and over.
^^^THIS^^^ I've read DR several times but I still like to pick it up and read a little every few days. Today I was reading the part where MWD talks about how people think they've tried EVERYTHING, but usually they're just repeating the same thing and just putting a new name on it. The example she uses is a woman who can't get through to her husband- she tries begging, she tries pleading, she goes to a communications seminar and returns and tries negotiating. None of it works. In her mind she has tried EVERYTHING and she's ready to give up. But to her H all of those things were the just different forms of the same thing- nagging (that was his perception of things). MWD says that if you think you've tried everything then reevaluate what you've been doing and try and come up with something REALLY different than what you've been doing.
