DFE, in my opinion, you are not done. BUT, it sounds like this dance has gone on for so long that you are living the cycle over and over and over.

You HAVE to live your life for you...with or w/o your M. Do not date if you do not feel it is what you really want.

I am in a similar sitch in SOME ways... but I know I do not want to date just to get H's attention and have decided that I won't date until D. Also, I know patience is important, that so is my life and that I am NOT willing to wait for H to decide his path to determine my own.

So, you need to decide what you want. If you still hold hope for you and your H to R then you need to continue to make decisions that will allow for this to happen in the future WHILE STILL LIVING YOUR LIFE NOW!!!

Not easy to find this path....happiness now ...MAYBE M saved later.

M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.