Thank you all for all of responses. I think that everyone agrees that I am not detached enough. I am sure that is true.. I think and analyse too much. On the other hand from this thread alone it may appear that I am too available, but that is debatable. I have not said yes every time, and she has pursued more than I have. Still I am at a point where I could either back off more or try to be more assertive (which would be a 180 for me). For this week I have already agreed to meet her on Tuesday. She has text me twice since I agreed to go.

Immediately she texted: perfect!!

4 hours later she texted: you pick the spot this time

It feels good right now. If things repeat I will try a change up next time.

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)