Perhaps the difference between the friends you know and the posters on here, is that we have gone through it. It is the worst experience I have ever been through in my life.

The thing that brought the most change was my focus. I knew I had to get myself and my kids through this. If I kept focusing on my ex I wasn't going to get anywhere. It is important to dig deep and be honest about yourself to yourself. Before your wife cheated, did you have problems? What part did you play in those situations? Did you listen to your wife's love language and show love in the way she needed? Did you work as a team with things around the house and with raising the kids? Did you have dates with your wife?

Look at your answers and think how you could have done things better if not differently. I am not sure if I have read anywhere if you are done trying to save your relationship or not. Regardless, you will need to know these things going into the future.

kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory