Figuring out the old and new life

[RosaLinda]

Hi FY, just catching up. Interesting that you feel that your W would plow thru her MLC and find her identity faster if she was not living in the house with you.

"I look forward to being invited into W's new world. My buddy and I were just talking about this tonight. I always wished she would open up like she has been doing. Just wished she could do it with me. Yes I mean that both ways"

It makes me sad that your W is seeking to find her identity (a new improved identity I guess) and although she is successfully finding herself and opening up, she is still blocking you out. What you said about her crying once because she was afraid you would "move in" on her activity when she started running is pretty telling. One thing I fear with my H over in Moscow is that I know it will change him forever, but I will not see the ways he will change, I won't know why or how. I hope some day soon you two will be running together, and that W will confide in you, dance with you, talk to you, in addition to sharing with her other friends. That intimacy is what I miss most in my marriage. I'm thrilled to hear that rH is getting it back in her Marriage, and think you will be soon too, FY.