It's hard when our sons have been used to getting much more than what we can afford to give them now. I'm having the same trouble with my son at the mo, I used to be able to afford to give him a bit of pocket money each week and now it's as and when I can afford it. I tell him the same as you that when I start earning more money then I'll be able to give him more. At least he's starting to understand now
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I still manage to give him pocket money each week, even if I did have to juggle my budget a little bit to do it and I usually only pay him once a month. I did ask him to take on a couple of chores to earn it. He whines about having to do the dishes twice a week, and I just keep gently reminding him that his grandad does them the rest of the week and I used to have to do them every other day when I was his age. Teenagers - and I've still got several years of this ahead of me.
Now I have to work on getting him to save his money instead of spending it as soon as he gets it. I swear it must be burning a hole in his pocket .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
My son is very good at saving his money. He once saved all his birthday and christmas money and bought himself a PS3. He wants to save up for a wii U now but moans because I can't afford to give him any money at the mo. His dad used to have a Wii U but had to sell it when he was flat broke. He can't seem to budget his money like I can, but then he shouldn't have gone out and bought himself a load of new clothes when he lost weight, lol. I'm still managing in the clothes that are 1 size too big for me, lol. Mind you, I'm not the one going through a midlife crisis, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I always loved helping my boys with purchasing things. I would see how much effort they put into saving for something, many weeks or months. Then when the time came to buy it, I would usually add some money for them to upgrade to a better option, or add money so they could purchase extra things. It was never expected from the boys, but they just so loved having that extra help.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
We've always helped our son with extra money so he could purchase something that he wanted He managed to get himself an Ipad with his 18th birthday money. I just asked everyone to give him money instead of presents so he would have enough and we put some money toward it as well
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I've come up with a way to convince my son to try and save. When I opened a bank account for him I made him a deal. For a maximum of three times otherwise it gets too expensive, if he puts his pocket money into the bank and it stays in there for at least 30 days I'll match it - he's managed it once so far since April and I'm sure that was only because he put $25 into his account on the day before he left for a two week sleep away camp with his Cadets and he came home with a paycheque . So two more times it'll cost me double pocket money - if he can actually manage not to spend any of it LOL.
He wants to buy an XBox so at least he's got a goal to save for. And of course, if I've got some spare cash I'll help him buy it if he can save the majority himself.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I LOVE that idea of matching his savings if it can stay in the bank for 30 days, what a wonderful way to teach your son about money and it's value!! Hopefully I can remember that one for when my children are a bit older, I would definitely like to teach them about saving money.
I also liked what hotwheelsaust said about his sons saving money and he would give them a little bit of an unexpected boost when it came time for them to cash in their savings.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
I'm still managing in the clothes that are 1 size too big for me, lol. Mind you, I'm not the one going through a midlife crisis, lol.
You and me both TTD. The girls at work keep telling me I need to go and buy better fitting clothes. They keep saying "you look great" when I've been wearing the few figure flattering outfits that I own. Of course, they all understand that food and other bills are first priority so they don't push it. I do have a couple of outfits that are starting to look a bit worn so I'm trying to scrape together a bit of spare cash so I can replace them.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Me too My mum sent me some money for my b/day in June, so I've manage to replace some of them. I'm wearing clothes that are actually the right size for me tonight, lol. All dressed up now and ready to go I am so looking forward to this night out
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
