Sorry T1000. I seriously don't know what I am going to do if the transfer doesn't happen. I will put it this way. When we apply for a transfer, we have to have completed our minimum 3 years in the country. Done. It then depends on positions available in my field of work (PE) and region I wish to go to. When I put my request in, I also have to write up to 500 words, why I want the transfer. I wrote that due to my marriage separation, I need to move for my sons, who have no parents with them. I need to move back into my house for stability, for my sons and me. I also wrote that being in the country without my support of family and friends is very hard. On top of this the principal also write something. My principal wrote that due to the separation, I haven't had any issues relating to my work, but if he continues to stay in the country without his support network, this could cause issues at work. The transfer is then viewed as a compassionate transfer, ie. more priority than a normal request. HR rang a few weeks ago, saying that transferring into my field of work (PE) is getting harder in my area I was originally working. Would I like to take up another field or region. I replied, that after going to University for 4 years to become a PE teacher I do not want to change my teaching field. I have no interest in being a classroom teacher. Also I am not prepared to change my region, which could result in being no where near my home. Our regions can cover up to 100klms radius or more. The issue isn't that there is no jobs available this year, but they cannot guarantee if I stayed in the country for one more year there would be a job available, or 10 years. The frustration of this, is we as teachers, are told, that if we do our country service then we get to come back to a job close to our home. My W and I hummed and aaarged over this so much before we were forced to go. Both of us were close to leaving our jobs, since we did not want to do this.
What is my plan if the transfer doesn't go through? I seriously don't know. I really worry that it will affect me so much, that I will make rash decisions. I don't know if after the Christmas holidays (6 weeks long) that I will have the motivation or desire to come back. I don't know how much longer I will be able to keep the PMA going.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.