FC, that bites. Sorry to read this and feel your pain finding this. Not sure what is worse, finding it or having your W blow it off and lie about it.

What did you say when you asked her about it and what did you say when she apologized?

Also, when you allowed her to moving back home after kicking her out for the one night stand, did you have any boundaries that you established?

CB

Me; 42, W; 43
M; 16 yrs
S12, D9

3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure"
5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"