Window of opportunity or just a mirage

[MrBond]

" It would be a 180 for me to take initiative. I know that doing it now flys in the face of the "not pursuing rule".."

You do understand that this is not a "forever" rule right? Eventually you're going to have to start going out with her if you want to heal your relationship.

She has been reaching out to you which is a good sign. Why don't you do something half way. She asked you out to drinks. Tell her "cool, but how about we go ..." and then suggest something. That way you both have input.

Incidentally, you should have been the one to plan romantic things to do with your W rather than she be the planner.