One giant leap forward! - Part 6

[T1000]

@ Sandi,

I was just about to have a go at replying to her email on here.

At first my personal reaction was guilt, then anger, then I found part of it ridiculous.
I honestly wouldn't be able to complain about something being hard and use the words 24/5. The whole point of bring up 24/7 is to too emphasize that it never ends, 24/5 means weekends off!!

After a while I cooled and was much more easy going on it. I think I would have let her walk all over me with the guilt.

I felt like bringing up it being her choice but feels too bitchy.

I also feel that if she was as tired as she makes out where does she find the energy to start a new R with OM and their evenings out.

It wasn't going to be anything like what you wrote but what you have wrote although tough does feel just.

I was tempted to tackle her comments about the kids missing me. It's hard to read that.

It makes me realise that even though we might just be co-parents she still tries her best to have a hold over me.

How about this, very similar just sounds more like me.:

Hi,

Go to this website that compares different insurance companies:
blahblah.com
Any questions you can't answer let me know and I will do my best to advise.

I have decided to move forward and plan to take time for a social and personal life.
If I have the kids three weekends out of four, as you've requested, then you will have to meet me half way with the driving.
By each doing our share, we can both have some free weekends.
I will supply the fuel for your car. "

I'm quite sure her head will implode.
At any point do I bring up any of the following:
- Time for her and OM.
- Her choices.
- Single Mom being easy.

Do I reply to the rage just to say that I won't reply to rage or ignore it? I would rather state the boundary than have her guess why I'm not replying or that I'm cowering.

The weird thing is I do have the kids 3 out of every 4 weeks now. It's what i wanted even though she didn't. I'm using leverage of something I already have.