You are surprised at the lack of character that the OM has? Really? It takes a really high level of character of a man to have an affair with a married woman, regardless of her feelings.
All in all, this is why I always tell people to not snoop. I know where my W lives. I have not googled the address. I have not done a drive by scouting mission. I removed myself from many of the websites we used to frequent.
Life hurts enough without the self-inflicted stuff.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter