How do you quote like that. I haven't spent enough time to completely figure it out. When I do try to quote, I cant seem to easily get the one sentence quotes like you have.
Start by clicking on "Quote" under the post you're replying to. That will quote the entire post, which usually isn't what you want. But you can break it down to the blurbs you want to reply to, then highlight just the part you want and click on the "quote" mark above the edit window (if you hover your mouse over it, it will say "quote some text"). Then type your response right below it, then move on to the next blurb and repeat the above process. I always hit "Preview Post" before submitting just to make sure nothing wonky happened in the quotes.
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Like you, I am ready to be over with this. I feel like I am giving up on our M though. I would like to at least try to reconcile but she shows now signs of wanting that.
It's the D that I'm tired of having hanging over my head, but I don't see that as the end of things. In fact if we never get back together D wasn't the end, S was. Because we've done little but function as coparents since S. D is kind of anticlimactic really. Regarding her not showing signs of wanting to R, they never do. It's like I just posted in Turtle's thread, usually it's like a switch is flipped. They go from being totally done to suddenly wanting to work on things, and it's practically overnight. So you can't use that as a litmus test of whether she'll ever want to reconcile, because if she does ever get there she'll blindside you with it just like BD.
Now I am not saying we should sit around the house waiting for the phone to ring. We have to move on with our lives. The WAS may want to return some day, or they may not. We can't predict the future. So we live our lives, make ourselves better people, and each of us decides when to close the door to our WAS. It may sound odd, but closing that door for good is actually the LBS's decision to make.
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She thinks that I should just bend over and be happy that she is devastating our family, our children.
Actually the reality is probably quite different- your W is not at all happy about the sitch and is certainly not proud of her actions. She feels very hurt and is doing this out of desperation. She feels she has to do this to survive. She is constantly battling herself over whether this is right or not. Try to have some sympathy for her (I know that's a big thing to ask for, but if you can get there then you will experience significant growth through forgiveness), she is hurting as much as you are even though she may not show it.
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The difference is that I am willing and able to do the hard work of reconciling and she is not willing to lift a finger to try and work through our issues.
Yup, that's what DB'ing is. "It takes one to tango".
