I have a tentative "timeline" to see where I'm at at the beginning of Nov (1 year after he moved out). If there has been absolutely no movement then I can't really believe I will want to continue a R that doesn't even exist any more anyway.
I've read a lot of old reconciliation/ piecing threads, and have talked to friends and family members who have gone through S and D. It seems a more realistic timeframe for a WAS to come out of the fog is 2 years. Reconciliations do happen before that, but most of the examples I know of it was closer to 2 years. And there was ZERO movement before that time. Often it's almost like a switch is flipped, similar to BD. They were in love with us the day before BD, then BD, then they suddenly can't bear to be around us. Well similarly, there's often a reverse-BD. It's not usually a slow process, they go from being done to wanting to work on things practically overnight.
So do we sit around waiting? Not on your life. My attitude is I am moving on as if we're done, BUT, I'm not totally killing hope either. I'm not keeping a fire burning in my heart for W, but there's a small candle flickering and I'm cupping my hands around it to keep it from going out. I'm moving on in every way except getting heavily involved with an OW, and I'm trying not to close the door on anything in the future, I'll just let it unfold as it will.
