25 - I listed a specific ineteraction here, because I was looking for specific feedback on how to change my behaviour.
Labug implies that I should have stopped communicating after the first interaction went negative.
You and Lanzo recommend that I avoid the conflict by simply paying the bills.
There seems to be agreement that the situation is damaging to my kids and that my W and I need to physically seperate.
I am very conflicted and don't really know what to do in these situations. I am seeing a professional counselor, reading books, and talking with friends. The advice is often contradictory.
You say "if people who read my thread, ALL pretty much think I was wrong?". But the reality, is that I get all sorts of feedback. The advice from you and Mr. Bond, and others on this site is typically out of the mainstream of advice I get. Even within this site, there are legitimate differences of opinion. In most of these situations, there is no "right answer".
I will think some more about these comments, but the general idea that I am "Self rightous", driven by "wounded pride", or unwilling to work on my "negative traits" is just not true. It is not who I am. I read these comments, I think about them, I talk to family and friends and I form an opinion. Sometimes it results in regret (the FB post), sometimes it re-inforces my action (the church), but in most cases, there is thoughtfull reflection and the willingness to reconsider my viewpoint.
Also, I want you to know that I do understand the need for my children to have a good connection with their mother and I am doing my best to reinforce that and not to harm it. Unfortunately, interactions like this with my W make it difficult. Maybe it is time to move out.
Thank you for taking the time to write. I do value your opinion, and consider your words carefully.
