Is this dropping the rope? Did I make a mistake?

[Breakdown]

I want to ask him if he would be ok with a mother man being intimate with me or spending time with his kids.

Sounds like you are trying to manipulate him. And if I was him, I'd say yes, regardless of what I really felt....remember, believe nothing they say.

Don't know why I can't just let go.

I think this is a personal decision, so take as much time as you need/want.