BA: sometimes feelings develop over time - not everything is instant chemistry. I'd give her a bit longer before deciding she's not the one.
There seem to be mixed feelings here on how soon to. Say NEXT. When I got back into dating - I decided to stick with each one until I knew for sure that I'd reached a deal breaker. Even if I really didn't feel anything much at first. It usually became clear in a couple of dates but even Josh & I hit a couple of roadblocks on the early months. I had to step back & really analyze our R. I realized that sharing mutual values & goals was more important than if he didn't phone when he said he would (although I did set him straight on that one too). I guess I'm just saying that even if someone doesn't move at the pace you would like them to - that you still consider them for a bit longer - not everyone "falls" at the same time. So it's good to try longer rather than consider it a waste of time & energy.
Thanks Barb. I am trying to be patient and just let things take it's course to see what may evolve. That is true with anyone I go out with unless there are absolute definite red flags or dealbreakers that surface. I have been fortunate enough to have that instant chemistry with 2 people in the last year so I know it does exist it just doesn't happen very often. If the feelings develop over time then that would be great as well.
I think it is good that I am going away this weekend to Ann Arbor and just spending time with my girls. Gives me a chance to just step back and have some quality time with them for a couple of days.
