Been doing some catching up since I got home, its so hard to post in a timely manner since im still on moderation after a month and over 30 posts.
Anyways, theres a lot of positives to take from some of your recent posts. I would agree that the wait and see approach is a good way to slow things down while getting a feel for how your wife comes to you a bit. You know your wife, you know the changes that need to be made, and reinforced.
I cant say if its too much, or too little too late. You will know, cause she'll make it obvious, either way. We've both been at this the same amount of time roughly. If there was anything I thought you might be doing wrong, is that your just having too many expectations/planning ahead still, but that's ok, cause guess what, from your posts its working. Everyone's sitch is so unique and I fully understand we have to each do our own tweaking. I'm glad your attacking your sitch in a way you feel comfortable and getting some results, but still willing to slow it down a bit.
Hang in there, you already know that the patience thing really seems to be the key. Are there other things that you have "tested". Light touching? a nice rub on the shoulder/back as your helping her to her seat when your out? is it too early?
Keep standing! keep it slow, keep listening, it looks like your doing good.
