Help needed

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Yesterday H and I talked on the phone, briefly, about my requests regarding the OW not being around the kids. She's got all kinds of problems, medical and financial, and he's got himself in a situation where he is "taking care" of her in all sorts of ways (that he never took care of me in such ways goes without saying).

He seemed willing to grant my requests when possible, and I was willing to accept occasional exceptions when necessary. So, I guess that's good.

I held myself together and only got choked up a couple of times. Pulled myself together and kept talking. Talking to him always makes me cry. I would like that to stop.

I have asked him to work with the OW to create next month's childcare schedule so that they can "synchronize" their parenting days (i.e. arrange it so he has his kids when she has hers). Hopefully that approach will solve the problem, because they will be parenting on the same dates--and they won't be together.

She sees her kid way less frequently than he WANTS to see his. He wants 50/50. She's got about 20/80.

He is taking the OW to a ballgame tomorrow, and she is taking him to a family event on Sunday. This is occurring during one of "his" weekends with our kids, which bothers me quite a bit. They will be at his house alone while he's gone off with her. But at least he's not taking our kids AND her to these events. I've told the kids they are welcome to come over to my place if they get lonely. They know where I live, and it's an easy walk from my H's place.