Barb, Dave couldn't step up and pursue me. I gently let him know I needed more than a text once a week asking what we were doing on Sat. night. He didn't know how to plan anything and I became the 'alpha' in the relationship. When I planned a hike he couldn't find the trail and called me up whining. I had to go meet him and drag him to the trail. I'm looking for a MAN this time around. I was the "mommy" to my xh and this time I want a guy to step up! Car guy can totally do that and planned the most amazing/fun dates ever! But, his values and mine just don't align. I mean, c'mon no dentist in FOUR years?!
BA, Well, of course I played golf for my birthday!! I'm swinging quite well these days, but don't they always say you play your best golf the day you rest your clubs for the season?! If the monsoon lets up I'm supposed to play tomorrow. The courses are so green; never seen it like this! As far as therapy.... She could sense my frustration and said I probably need to take a break and do some introspection. I would agree. We looked over the "menu" (lack of a better term) that I wrote when I took a love coaching class back in April. Now, I admit it's a 'tall order,' but not impossible. She asked that I choose my top 10 priorities and imagine him sitting next to me. Sigh.....no real magical ideas from her, but it helped to talk out my frustration at being single at 52. I think it's just hard because we know ourselves well and we're not willing to settle on things that really matter to us.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
