NG- I think it is very hard to go back, especially when you've been through a couple of GFs and were pretty much absent from your kids for 4 months. Honesty and courage needed indeed!
Whether he can settle his own feelings about this, who knows? He is looking for that "I've fallen in love, this person is my world, I crave to see her, she makes me happy all the time, how wonderful", at the beginning relationship.
He had this with MG and I know he feels that this is what love should be. One day, not anytime soon, I will remind him that he felt this way with me once at the beginning. That the fact that he has, by his own admission, tanked two relationships for me, would do anything for me, am his best friend and intimacy is not an issue, may indicate that...hello? This is also love You can't spend the rest of your life chasing that high.
PS- Ya. I don't want to do all the work either lol! Since we are not there yet I won't need to address his willingness to do the work on a relationship, boundaries etc, but I will. Right now I have come as far I as I am able, not up to me anymore in terms of our relationship.
GTO- we already know our Hs are brothers from another mother...it's like dieting. When you finally have that piece of gorgeous looking pastry, or you are a kid and you soooo want that toy (cuz your life will be complete) it is never as good as you think it is. That toy doesn't make you a different, cooler kid, and often you see your kid going back to the one favourite toy he has...;)
Hopeful- thanks. Honesty is good, but I don't want to be the "because I didn't want to be alone" fallback. I'm gonna want the whole deal
Yes. I am prepared for the space thing etc. I am about to get insanely busy. That will help
You can't spend the rest of your life chasing that high.
