I did the google search and most of the stuff is at Pilbean theatre which is in Rockhampton, 280klms away. The only stuff in Emerald is visit the botancical gardens, railway station (one train a day) or the dam. What will I do if I don't get the transfer? In all honesty, probably visit the doctor get put onto anti-depressants and apply for work related stress leave. Otherwise if that fails, I most probably will quit, but then I have to pay to have all belongings transferred back to the city, which will cost many thousands of dollars. I cannot see any positive reason for staying here. If I don't get the transfer now, this year, when the Principal has put his view of compassionate leave advised, then in all probability each year I am going to get the same story of no positions available.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
TTD180, there is no option (that is a benefit) to transfer to another town where there is more to do. The only advantage being here is the reduced rent because I am in teacher housing. Any other area (unless going further out in the country) does not have teacher housing. Therefore it would be ridiculous to pay for rent when I have my own house. Not to mention the way our transfer system works, wherever I transfer to, I will need to stay there for at least a minimum of 3 years.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
So what is the plan if the transfer doesn't happen? Nothing?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
HWA, I realize the transfer is what you want, it isn't what you need.
I also worry that if it doesn't happen, you will not be good with yourself.
Going on anti depressants because you didn't get a transfer? Not getting what you want doesn't equal depression....It's a clinical diagnosis.
You have made some awesome excuses for not GALing as much as you should inyour little town. How about coming up with some awesome excuses for doing so?
No one said it was going to be easy. I live in a small town also. I save a couple bucks so I can go to the city and wander around. You can also do this with the bigger city 250 kms away (if I remember). Grab the bus and go. Save for a cheap motel and stay the weekend.
Stuff isn't gonna come and do a little dance on your front step. You're gonna have to get out and track it down
Ruby, I appreciate and understand what you are saying, simply things are different here. There isn't a bus/train I can just get on, we don't have them offering daily trips to the next biggest town. I don't simply have the money to spend on fuel, accom and food. I am sorry you think I have made some awesome excuses for not GALing here, I don't know what else I can do. We have very little to do. I am not a person who goes to the pub and drinks, and in a predominant town of mining people, that is about all there is to do. I have checked the local papers, library and noticeboards for clubs, events etc. There is nothing.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
HWA, I can appreciate all you are saying. It is not easy to go out and GAL especially if things are not that easy to get to. However you do need to think "what if". Hopefully you will get the transfer though and I really hope you do
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Ruby, I appreciate and understand what you are saying, simply things are different here. There isn't a bus/train I can just get on, we don't have them offering daily trips to the next biggest town. I don't simply have the money to spend on fuel, accom and food. I am sorry you think I have made some awesome excuses for not GALing here, I don't know what else I can do. We have very little to do. I am not a person who goes to the pub and drinks, and in a predominant town of mining people, that is about all there is to do. I have checked the local papers, library and noticeboards for clubs, events etc. There is nothing.
Good grief man, MOVE!!! If it's so miserable there and there's zero GAL activities, why stay? It seems like you're constantly waiting for life to happen to you. "If this happens, then that." Cause and effect. But YOU have a lot more power then you give yourself credit for. Your life, your destiny, is in YOUR hands. Lack of money is no excuse, some of the happiest times in my life were when I had very little money. With little money and few possessions comes mobility and freedom! Take advantage of it! Ever been on a walkabout?
I agree AS I very rarely have a lot of money to spend, but I do have my bus fare to go places HWA, you're stronger than this, I've seen it You're not usually the one to back down from a challenge.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Why am I still here? Because there is some common sense still in the back of my mind. If I walk out of my job, I lose my long service leave, my career (cannot apply elsewhere for this job) and my hope for being a better person in my families eyes. I agree how good it would be to simply get up and go, but at my age I have to think very carefully about it's repercussions.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
The question I asked you earlier: So what is the plan if the transfer doesn't happen?
What are your thoughts on this? Put up with no GAL? Only GAL at weekends with lots of travel?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
