All Out of Options

[Not Quitting]

Your H knows how to push your buttons. My H does the same thing. He'll send me something just as I'm leaving work then get all uppity about the fact that I haven't looked at it on his time scale.

Well done for ending the conversation and for all the validation you did. There's not much else you could do in this sitch. It's like having a kid around sometimes - you know, the temper tantrum when they don't get their own way .

I do have one concern - "no more cake eating or beatings". I'm hoping you don't mean that last word literally. If you do, then you need to protect yourself. You have to do everything possible to protect yourself and remove yourself from a harmful situation. I spent 18 months working with a police force and saw enough women who continually made excuses despite the physical danger and who stayed in the situation.