" I've struggled all my life with certian personality issues that push people away and I have finally chosen to address them for me and my marriage.
Because my wife has pleaded with me over the years to make changes and get help it's important to me that she sees that I am taking her concerns to heart. Granted, they are much past due, but I am listening to her wishes."
DD, what are her complaints in the M? What are the changes you are working on? I apologize if you already have stated these.
Just to clarify your opening post, is this 2nd A in your M? Did you confront her in her 1st A? Did she know you knew, how did it ended?
Just thinking out loud here, but if this happened before even if this current A fizzles out you might be back here 3yrs or so from now. I think your W needs to realize that the next time she has an A that you will not be in the picture nor that you will tolerate any A. I understand you can not control her actions but you have a choice to be part of it or not.
That being said, obviously there are some comaints in the M that is driving her to the arms of the OM. What do you think they are specifically?
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
