I should have also stated the positive stuff that W was doing. She was reaching out and touching my arm while talking to me in the Counselor session. So another nice babystep imo. But she still likes to critisize me and belittle me. When she starts out sentences with "I don't want this to sound controlling or critisizing...", I stop her. I say "I don't want to hear it, right now, especially in a critical/belittling voice".
There are ways to say it in a opsitive voice (our counselor is going to teach us these things later actually). She's been thru this before a while back. Obv we both forgot about it.
I don't think she means to do it, it is almost subconscious. She has been the leader for quite some time, and that chit is gunna change.
"Do what you can With what you have Where you are" - Theo. Roosevelt
