I am currently doing the phone coaching (had one session so far), but I'm concerned that wife wont even know or see any of the changes/efforts with the 180. She moved out to apartment after I confronted her infedility and to my knowledge she is no longer seeing the OM. We have very little contact (only text actually, when I initiate) and no voice or visual contact. Other than whatever "happy" things I may post on social media (facebook, etc), there's really no way to know if Im doing right. I felt good after the phone consult, but already seems a tad hopeless. Though I will add that her attorney has thus far taken 3 weeks to "draw up papers". Maybe she's stalling and can't face me yet? Any thoughts from anyone experiencing a walk away spouse with little contact?? Thanks.
You make the changes for you, not to win her back.
Yes I know of people that have DB'ed with vanishers and restored their marriages.
