I am currently doing the phone coaching (had one session so far), but I'm concerned that wife wont even know or see any of the changes/efforts with the 180. She moved out to apartment after I confronted her infedility and to my knowledge she is no longer seeing the OM. We have very little contact (only text actually, when I initiate) and no voice or visual contact. Other than whatever "happy" things I may post on social media (facebook, etc), there's really no way to know if Im doing right. I felt good after the phone consult, but already seems a tad hopeless. Though I will add that her attorney has thus far taken 3 weeks to "draw up papers". Maybe she's stalling and can't face me yet? Any thoughts from anyone experiencing a walk away spouse with little contact?? Thanks.
Im in the same boat and will be interested in what some of the vets have to say. I suspect they will let you know to just focus on you and as the proceedings for the D occur, ensure your interactions are positive.
Did the coach offer any suggestions on ways to intiate contact without really pursuing?
Its definitely tough when there are no kids or other reasons for contact.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014
