I'm a little torn, because you are strongly encouraging that I lay out boudaries and hold her accountable for the A, but you end with "(please note I am not advocating exposure here, as that is against DB principles)".
I'm confused. If DBing and MWD does not encourage exposing the A, what option does that leave a LBS, but to DB and GAL and make positive changes?
No, DB does not advocate exposure. For me, it worked, but there are two very strong schools of thought on it. I was only referring to lots of different things you can do between "Bo-Peep" (you know, "leave them alone, and they'll come home, wagging their tails behind them") and going scorched-earth.
Have you given any thought to the idea that your wife may know that you know, and what implications that would bring? Because I can almost guarantee that she does.
