In reading your posts, I wonder if your H and maybe Bug's as well needs to find a way to forgive themselves... if coming back also means facing the hurt their actions created and their own frailties.. then it takes true strength and courage to find the path back.. perhaps that is what stands in the way of intimate feelings.. the inability to face oneself and the other honestly.
or maybe, otoh, they just dont know what the hell they are doing...lol
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13