Just friends is OK for now

[TryingToDo180]

I realised I actually enjoyed being on my own when I had a friend over to stay for a few days. She was having marriage problems and I was giving her some time for them both to think about it. My routine was all messed up and I was glad when she actually went home, lol.
I have a routine where after I take my son his hot chocolate up, I then make myself a spritzer or a lager shandy and settle down to the PC for the rest of the evening. When my friend was staying, I had to spend time with her and if I did have a glass of wine, it would turn into a bottle, lol. It was a very expensive few days!
also I had to make conversation where normally it will be peaceful and quiet
I often wonder if H did come back how we would settle back into a routine. I know that H prefers to watch TV now instead of going on his PC.
Anyway MH, glad you had a good day Enjoy flirting with the waitresses, I know I enjoy flirting Not with waitresses though, lol.

[TryingToDo180]

Hi MH, I wonder if you'll pop by my thread and have a look at the latest updates that I've been making. HWA says some good points but I'd like to hear from your point of view as well as you and your W are close friends now. Is H really cake eating or is he getting closer as friends? I would like your positive take on this and some insight into the planet zonk! lol.

[Not Quitting]

Before all of this I barely spent any time away from my H. Lately I have been enjoying the free time as well, reading books, going for walks, enjoying a glass of wine while watching my favourite shows. I realize that life will go on with or without him, and the world doesn't revolve around him. Create your own happiness! Ok, that was sappy, sorry!

-cp

Sappiness is allowed cp.

I've begun to realize that I can be on my own, and that I will be fine with or without H. In fact, on Sunday when he came to the house for his weekly visit with S13, I found myself anxious for him to leave by the end of the afternoon.

[MileHigh]

Trying, I'll hop on over there and have a look. But first, I have another motivational tip, courtesy of my brother, from a book he's reading by Bear Grylls. It's the three minute rule (not sure if that's what it was called, but it'll work). The idea is, when facing a difficult task and it seems overwhelming, to give it 3 minutes of determined effort. I put it to work right after he told me about it. I had been putting of assembling a piece of fitness equipment that had about 100 parts. Every time I looked into the box, I just couldn't commit. The 3 minutes led to 4, 5.... success!

NQ, I know that feeling. A couple times when I spent hours with the W, and doing things that try the patience, like driving for 45 minutes or fighting with Walmart customer service, she would be getting quite crabby. Since she doesn't necessarily own up to needing to change her behavior, I do start wondering if I'm crazy to continue this journey.... Of course, when an attractive waitress puts both hands on the table, leans in, looks me right in the eye and says "you have a great night." I *really* wonder. LOL.

[TryingToDo180]

That 3 minute rule sounds good MH and thanks for popping over and commenting on my thread There's nothing wrong with a bit of flirting

[Not Quitting]

I'll have to try the 3 minute rule as well. I've really got to declutter - and maybe start packing up the stuff that H didn't take with him yet. Every time I think about starting I take one look at the bottom of the bedroom closet and get put off from doing that much work at that time, and of course I haven't gotten back to it yet.

At least you're doing stuff that tries your patience when you get that feeling. I was curled up with a good novel while H and S13 played when I found myself thinking "isn't it time you left?". And yes, there have been times when I'm not sure I want to stay on this rollercoaster - I completely avoid those things when I'm at the theme park LOL.

[TryingToDo180]

I know what you mean about rollercoasters NQ, I totally avoid them when I'm on the theme park as well lol.
I need to declutter as well big time, I will definitely be trying the 3 min rule H has left some of his stuff here as well and I need to bag that up to give to him next time I see him.

[MileHigh]

Decluttering reminds me - can't remember who mentioned flylady. I actually know about her, and a member of the forum on that site, but haven't been there in years. I may have been the only man in the whole user list. I have used her speed cleaning idea, too. In fact, sometimes at work I set a 30 min or 1 hr timer and start a task. Really motivates me to not check email, work on stuff based on my preference instead of real priority, or check on DB forum. LOL.

I like to read a lot of posts/blogs/etc. about decluttering/minimalism/simplifications/organization, etc.

For me it all started with a book by Don Aslett called Lose 200 Lbs This Weekend: It's Time to Declutter Your Life. The pounds he's referring to are pounds of junk!

I consider myself a recovering packrat. If I had time, I'd detail my adventer (?) clearing out the leftover junk from this place I'm living in. Never buy a house from hoarders!

Cleaning can be a good way to keep busy and out of trouble, but there are limits!

Speaking of lbs. Since I live in the US, I can pick on us for being the only place on the planet not to embrace the metric system. I remember a very brief, lame attempt to teach it when I was in grade school. We got meter sticks to replace yard sticks and that was about it. I notice when watching Holmes on Holmes or other Canadian DIY shows they usually refer to feet and inches - but that might just be a trade practice, or pandering to the US audience. I know habits die hard in different industries. But I have a few Canadian co-workers and they all seem to be able to switch back and forth ok. I have to stop and think hard if given a temperature in Celsius (or hit Google!). But I really love how the British folks are officially metric yet give their weight in stones all the time!

[Not Quitting]

Really motivates me to not check email, work on stuff based on my preference instead of real priority, or check on DB forum. LOL.

So depending on which time zone you’re in, it’s most likely after 9 – guess your preferred task is checking DB forum right now LOL. If it weren’t for checking up on the forum, there are times when I’d have nothing else to do.

Speaking of lbs. Since I live in the US, I can pick on us for being the only place on the planet not to embrace the metric system. I remember a very brief, lame attempt to teach it when I was in grade school. We got meter sticks to replace yard sticks and that was about it. I notice when watching Holmes on Holmes or other Canadian DIY shows they usually refer to feet and inches - but that might just be a trade practice, or pandering to the US audience. I know habits die hard in different industries. But I have a few Canadian co-workers and they all seem to be able to switch back and forth ok. I have to stop and think hard if given a temperature in Celsius (or hit Google!). But I really love how the British folks are officially metric yet give their weight in stones all the time!

It depends on your age whether you can switch back and forth or not. My son is too young to know anything other than metric and my dad still struggles with metric. I can usually switch back and forth as I started learning feet/inches in school then had to switch to metric before I’d finished.

As you drive across the border, one of the first traffic signs you’ll see is one which tells US drivers what 100km is in mph – just so they have no excuse for being caught speeding LOL .

And as for weight in stones, being 10 stone sounds lighter than 140 lbs, doesn't it? Not that I remember what it feels like to only be 140lbs LOL .

[TryingToDo180]

It was me who mentioned Flylady and I've not used her system for a long time, apart from the 15 min rule. I'm a typical brit, for measurement I like to use cms and metres. When I weigh myself or weigh ingredients out I use ounces, pounds and stone. The temperature that I use switches from Fahrenheit in the summer as I can tell exactly how hot it is and centigrade in the winter so I can see how cold it is, lol. I know I drive everyone crazy!
I really must go back to the flylady site, even if it's just for some incentive to start cleaning and decluttering again. I need to declutter the bookcase but there's bags in front of it that need decluttering first, lol.