I meet with a group of DBers once a month.. and it has been amazing. Even when we introduce a new member into the mix, it has the same effect.
For me, it is a feeling like we had known each other for years.
When you are here - you are truly going through he!!. You are hurting so bad and are so vulnerability and fragile..and these strangers just care about you.. without even knowing you.
A bond is created. There really is a special kind of love on these boards.
So meeting them in person doesn't change anything. It just makes it real. Real hugs vs. Virtual ones. Words of wisdom that now has a voice attached to it.
It is truly a blessing to meet the folks who help you through your journey. I would recommend it to anyone.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
thats cool. i was curious. livin in BFE i dont have that opportunity. for some reason it was on my mind...
gineen.. i havent forgotten. proud to wear the only red sweater worth wearing.. especially in someone else's barn! it's hard to talk crap tho.. i've always liked the devils. now we play em so it should be easier! lol
Clay, I joined this place at a time when we all socialized. I've met lots of folks in real life. Some are still here and others moved on. I also met my long time former guy here. I still keep in touch with quite a few. In fact, that was the best thing about this place.
They just don't let you ask for a DB get together anymore. Kind of a bummer.
No comment on the hockey. We're just going to have to agree to disagree.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
the good ol days huh? that would be cool. i understand though. not wanting to turn it into a dating site and all.. lol i just thnk it would be cool to talk in person. hear your guy's voice not my imagined ones..lol
i believe we will always agree to disagee on the hockey!
so i dont know how nurses do their job.. or doctors.. or emts.. one of the roofers at my jobsite fell and died yesterday at the site. i was the only one first aid/cpr trained. kinda hard to give first aid to a dead man.. thats the third construction worker in 3 months in a 30 mile radius who has died.. this one hit me a little harder. still not sure how to feel. i feel wierd and am trying to just go about my business. ex even texted me to ask if i was ok. told her i dont wanna talk about it.
im not sure how i feel. makes me wonder. he only fell 20 feet. im constantly ALOT higher than that.. people have told me i have a death wish. then this happens. on my job. he was from another company, another trade. still not cool. construction workers are like cops or firemen. when one dies, we feel it. this happened right in front of me and there was nothing i could do. this i couldnt fix...
thanks gineen. i appreciate the advice and i did take tomorrow off. today was spent in meetings and talking to OSHA..
Clay...did you know the construction worker that died in the car accident? I think he was from a Southern State.
My Cori was the 911 dispatcher and are friend was the 1st on site. Wicked hard sometimes.
I have a friend who was the 1st officer on the scene for the car crash that killed his entire family. He is no longer an officer but works at the school with me. I simply can not imagine
Take some time to process through what happened. Lean on people
Glad you're taking the day off. It's a good thing, and there is no way you could avoid being shaken up about it.
Way back when D19 was in 7th grade, we were driving by our pool on a nice Sunday November day. I liked driving by, because it was under construction and really taking shape. It was one of those surreal moments where it was really quiet, and nobody was out walking (in my neighborhood, that's really unusual any under circumstances) except for my car and an oncoming motorcyclist.
A small CAT backhoe was backing up and I can remember that there was no beeping sound to notify (my sunroof was wide open). Another man had his back faced to the backhoe, when D19 and I both yelled out of the window at the driver - to no avail. We watched him back over the man, who I later found out was his brother-in-law. They spoke very little English and didn't understand what we were yelling. The motorcyclist, backhoe driver, 2 other construction workers and I tried to get him out from under that backhoe. D19 was very focused on the man, who was trapped, and knew the exact second he died. It was a VERY tough week for us, but primarily for me. It was an image that stayed with me. The man left behind a wife and 2 teenage daughters, and he became real to me.
So be nice to yourself, ok? It really took a good week for me to feel emotionally better. And like you, I had numerous calls from OSHA as well. Reliving it made it even harder.
BTW, the audible beep function had malfunctioned. My testimony sealed that conclusion, and apparently caused a HUGE fine for the construction company. I was glad, because they sent out a 3 man construction crew to work on the parking lot without a supervisor. Worse? Nobody spoke English. It was awful.
Take care, and big hugs from me.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
