HWA there is a reason for living in the present. When you say that if "A" happens then I can do "B" you are putting expectations on a fictitious situation. The same thing with your wife...well if she did"A" I could do be, because "A" means this....
If I moved back I could "B"....
I used to be a big scenario person and always made up scenes in my head or would say if this happens then I will do this. Before I knew it, that time period had passed and I had done nothing except think about what I would do instead of taking the opportunity in front of me and living the day.
One thing at a time. Wait for HR, if you have no expectation of the outcome then you are good with whatever happens. This really is the foundation of DBing as well, I think. When the expectations are taken out of the equation, the end result is very different.
