Me 10 months on. Positve agenda.

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But for now my suggestion is:
Ride out the next 7 days and then see what HR brings! I understand why this is MAJOR! Whether you get the transfer or don't, let's look into your concerns, when the answer comes.

This is my next big step. If the transfer comes in, it will allow me a better chance in moving ahead with my personal improvements. It will allow me to be back at home with my sons, my long time friends, more GAL activities and my second love: my motorbike.

I hope you get the books soon! You could in the future try the audio's. I download at audible and use my phone as player - works splendid but I do believe that these two books I will also need in writing. There's a lot of exercises in them and those I would love to have those in writing.

Did get the audio as well as the book for the psycho cybernetics. Will have them on my ipod for the holidays.

but there is so much more that is out of my control and that is why I struggle with some of the simpler things

But IMHO you still let these “out-of-control” issues control your emotions, your actions, your happiness and your mood
That’s an issue you need to address.

You are right, these issues do control too much of my emotions, actions, happiness and mood. At this stage I know they affect me, but I don't really have an answer how to make it better. I try to be positive, but these things are in my face all day. I cannot even come home and relax, as I have a flatmate who is on my back about so much, who only wants to talk when it suits him.

It isn't just the limbo with the W, but yes, the limbo with work and where I will live.

This has been the case for a long time, HWA! I hope you get it now!
I do slowly get it, I have no control over these things, therefore I need to lose the emotion over it as well. I just want to move forward, but cannot, as the moving forward is me leaving this country town.

Boy, I can do so much more GALing when I get back to the city. I am so looking forward to it.

I am not up to ruin your moods but do be careful about those expectations!

I know it isn't going to be all smelling roses, going back home. It will though, allow a lot more choice of GALing, a lot more time with friends, a lot more face to face time with my sons.

Hotwheels, living with uncertainty does not really depend on your sitch. If you think about it, no one knows what life will bring in the future. Did you ever expect your W to behave the way she's behaving? Would you have ever imagined such thing? And yet, it happened. So instead of being afraid of what might or might not happen, see your future as an endless source of opportunities.

tori, no I didn't expect my W to behave the way she is. After such a long time married, she is an alien. I never in my wildest dream would have imagined her behaviour this way towards me or the boys. I will try to focus more on the endless source of opportunites, and have already started a list of some of them.

Your disadvantage is you don't get the opportunity with W, your advantage is you don't have her constantly effecting you up and down.

You can't use your disadvantage but you can use your advantage. It's hard to appreciate it and not want the other that your not getting.

Having decent quotes around is a good idea. My only suggestion is change either the quote or where it is situated to see quite often.
You get so used to seeing it that you stop seeing.

T1000, I really like that disadvantage/advantage advise. I will try to focus more on that type of thinking. Good idea about the quotes being moved also.

Thank you all. I know your comments are meaning well. I know I am still struggling with some of the basics after so long doing this. All I can say and do, is I will continue to try and improve myself. Slowly a lot of these comments and earlier comments are making more sense.