Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[JJAC2005]

Bond...
I agree...I have learned a ton since discovering DB....I just wish I could have held back on a few of my reactions to some of the positives that were begining to show back in May, June and July.
With each positive I saw...I ended up over thinking and over reacting to the point that it pushed the walls to go back up again.
I have honored her wishes and not sought out a play date or meeting to see the kids since my mishap on the luch date mid July...and the end of summer is officially coming up in a week, so I can wait that one out.

I really dont see that I have put my life on hold....except in the area of dating (but I am just not into anyone I have met, and still only want one woman)
I have made huge progress on - 180's - GAL - working out, running 5k's, training for triathlons, - working on getting back into a masters program - gaining more financial independence and security - I have become much more connected with getting back to church, God and actively practice my faith - plus I am feeling better about every aspect of my life....and really feel that I am a way better person for al that I have learned in the past year. I most definately am a way better version of the man I was when my ex first met and fell in love with me.
My plan was to wait til the first day of Fall to send her a little note to let her know that I admit my mistakes of adhering to her rules or conditions for interaction, and would like the opportunity to continue to see the kids on what ever terms she see's as nessasary for her comfort.
I want to assure her that my intentions to see the kids are strickly about them and about only wanting to stay a small part of their lives as they continue to grow into adulthood. it has nothing to do with her...only the kids and me.
I want to thank her for all that she has done in the past for allowing me the opportunity to have had them in my life to this point, and hope she can see the benefits of continuing to have an adult that cares for nad loves her children as much as she does...and wants to see them succeed in anything that they would like to try.

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