How do you quote like that. I haven't spent enough time to completely figure it out. When I do try to quote, I cant seem to easily get the one sentence quotes like you have.
Also, thanks for the reply. It does sounds like you and I are on a similar time line with respect to our respective D's. Like you, I am ready to be over with this. I feel like I am giving up on our M though. I would like to at least try to reconcile but she shows now signs of wanting that. Therefore, I am hoping for an expeditious end to the D proceedings.
She thinks that I should just bend over and be happy that she is devastating our family, our children. She seems to have no concept of the damage that this will cause our children. The harmful affects are immediate and long lasting. I have gone through my parents divorce when I was about my sons age. It was a very confusing and depressing time for me and my siblings.
While I was growing up as a child, I still remember the pain and hurt of wanting a normal family life. I still hold some deep seeded resentments towards my parents. I know they did the best they could but it does not change the fact that we kids were scarred by their actions, just as my kids will be scarred by her actions.
She still believes that I am the cause of all her problems and that when we are divorced, she will finally find her happiness. I hope that she does find what she is looking for even though it makes me livid that our children will suffer because of this. I know I had my part in hurting the marriage but I would try everything to make it work before giving up so easily.
The difference is that I am willing and able to do the hard work of reconciling and she is not willing to lift a finger to try and work through our issues. The way I see it, she is putting more effort into devastating our family and our children's lives than it would take to fix our M and R. I guess that is the way of the MLC/WAS.
