There is no definitive test for a MLC and what you do doesn't really change. In truth, all the things you do, you should be doing for yourself. If there were problems in the marriage, then fix them. It will improve the relationship between you and your H.
About meeting with your H, suggesting a change a venue seems like a good idea. Let him initiate the meeting, but you suggest a different place. It will change the dynamics of the meeting.
