Really need your help

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Two nights ago, I went to the basement after the girls went to bed, because he wanted to talk. He started by asking me questions about our girls and how they were doing, then asked me if I was going to take half a day off work to take the girls to their doctor's appointment. I told him that I did not have to take time off since I was already on leave from work for the rest of the week.

He acted concerned and asked me if it was the IC who had given me a note, informed him no that it was the doctor. Looked like h wanted to have more details but I did not offer any.

H asked if I had told my mother ( which I did not), my sister, brother or friends, because he felt that I should because I need a support system. ( I think h was in a way trying to tell me that I should get my own support, and not his parents... I could be wrong).

H asked if I was sleeping ok, and eating ok because he noticed that I lost more weight. I told him that my sleeping is ok and yes that I was eating. He even asked what I ate that day in details ( I was thinking to myself, why does h want to know all these details)

H also told me that he talked to his parents for 5 hours on the weekend about our situation and to his brother. His brother spparently had many questions to ask him, so much that the His brother called him the next day and asked him more questions. His parents told him that he should get his own counsellor, so he said that he will get his own , a different one than mine.

H never talked about the status of our relationship but said that we should communicate more because he feels that the way that we are communicating is very bad almost dangerous. ( I don't know what to make of that comment). I validated his points, especially the communication.

I also shared with h that my counsellor had given me exercises for me to do and that I had a copy for him but that he did not have to take it. H said that he will take it but cannot promise that he will read it all.

I don't know what to make of this conversation, I mean I do want to talk to him more and not put pressure on him but its kinda hard when he is not always there.

What do you think?