Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[JJAC2005]

Quandary?
Perhaps....a bit of how you view pursuit.

I was asked a while ago that if I still wanted to reconcile with my ex why didn't I just ask her or let her know my desires?
This is based I think mainly on the fact that I am in a unique situation of not sharing children with my ex....and she has really NO real reason to stay friends or in any type of friendly contact. The other main reason I am sure others have asked me to go ahead and let my position be know to my ex is that they think that I could stay in some sort of holding pattern of "hope" as life passes me by.
I try to assure those that share their concern for me, although greatly appreciated, I am well aware of moving on from a relationship, and moving ahead with my life.
And my life is moving ahead very well thank you...

I have been under the impression that from a DB standpoint, we are to avoid R talks, as to not look like we are pursuing the R
But after speaking with several Christian based organizations and professionals, they thought that I should at some point state my desire to reconcile, but to do it in a way as to not pressure for it...as in just being content to be in the moment and build on the friendship as it leads to a deeper trust in the desired change. But not in a way that would indicate that if we talked today, and dated next week, that it will all be a path for reconciliation....they just want the pressure taken out of it....but the desire to be known.

Does anyone have any input on this type of disclosure?