The dance teacher had just gotten paid by all his students, so had a fat wallet and was feeling in an expansive mood. After the Saturday ballet lesson for the older women (my W included), he invited them all to lunch, on him, at the town's best restaurant. Between the French woman friend, the dance teacher's wife and my W, they let loose and had a few bottles and then pear cognac. The whole thing may just have been my W having her tongue loosened by the unaccustomed alcohol and her women friends nearby, though it should be said that she is pretty steadily working on renovating the place on the weekends.
My changes: recognize when I can be assertive, and then do something. For example, from today: look at my wife during dinner, complain (back) to a colleague about not cleaning up her computer code (which I then had to do; she had complained to me about not cleaning up mine), realize that I can stand where I want to on the sidewalk and not also have to think about impeding others (without being a jerk, of course), look a pretty girl in the eye and smile this afternoon.
Recognize the situation, react. Keep asserting myself in mind.
Daughter's school (an hour away) went to 7 tonight. W gets home shortly before 6 and tells me about this after looking at the schedule. I say I am going to get her and do so. Clean decision and action.
I see T tomorrow.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
