I am titanium

[Raine]

I need some advise. Here is the background of the last few weeks, and then my question at the bottom. My H continues to slowly reconnect, slowly pursue. Such as:

-Jokes about "our" sex life
-Jealousy over and talks about someone else being interested in me
-Asking me to spend time with him at night...which leads to me falling asleep in his bed and waking up at some point to get the baby...which leads to him questioning me in the morning why I left when I did, cause he didn't wake up. (BTW he goes into a really deep sleep now, where a few months ago any little thing would wake him up.)
-A gift from OW1 is gone.
-Watching tv together (We haven't done this for a very long time.)
-Calling me up to talk to me for 20 minutes at a time about nothing
-I posted a line to a song on FB, and he posted another line from the same song, very signification song to both of us and about us. He came home and told me he listened to it four times in a row and all throughout the day because of my post and it got him really emotional.
-He did a FB status update, to me. Tagged my name and said, "Raine, here is what we were talking about." He has not done this since long before BD. All his OW friends would be able to see this.
-Not wanting to spend time with his new friends.
-Cutting down on his nights out. Talking about not enjoying it and only wanting to go once a week if that or just have people over to our house instead.
-Offering to watch the kids, even the baby.
-Going to my family events
-Telling my parents and my siblings he is in C
-Telling me he wants me and the boys with him on a trip with his parents that before we had talked about just him going with them.

I sent him a message that said that include I don't hold any bad feelings or judge him for anything in the past. No response to it, but usually that means it has an emotional effect on him. If he wants to brush me off, he says "Thanks."

And this morning...He was leaving for C, and I hugged him. I haven't hugged him for him just coming or going for a very long time. And I think I have only hugged him once in the last few months and that was following an emotional talk. I was just gonna give him a quick hug, but when I started to pull away, he held on, and then did a two pat thing.

So the question...

What do you think about me initiating a hug with him more? After this hug, I felt like I should hug him before he leaves in the morning or comes home from work or both. I know he has massive fears of being rejected by me. I don't see him initiating a hug with me, but I also don't see him ever rejecting it.

Also thanks uR and Linda for your posts and support. I will get back to those soon.