Thanks for contributing to the discussion. I really appreciate all perspectives in this community as I'm sure you are aware how foreign all this is to someone when they arrive here.
To answer your question, no. I will not reveal how long I have known about the A. Instead, I will only use the most recent evidence at the time a confrontation occurs. I realize the ramifications of letting her know I've allowed her to participate in her A without my intervention.
I think what I'm doing right now is best. This whole thing has given me the true wake up call I've needed for a long time.
I've struggled all my life with certian personality issues that push people away and I have finally chosen to address them for me and my marriage.
Because my wife has pleaded with me over the years to make changes and get help it's important to me that she sees that I am taking her concerns to heart. Granted, they are much past due, but I am listening to her wishes.
At this point, I think that's all I have to offer her. What else would she posssibly be interested in from me at this point.
Granted, I know she wanted these changes years ago, but that didn't happen. I can only hope that she will take into consideration the negative impact on her, our sons, me and our future should she choose to disregard my changes and my committment to rebuild our marriage.
Ultimately, she will have to choose if getting what she wanted from me later than she wanted is still worth more than what this OM has to offer right now and in the future.
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13
