(Un)Wise to send PEAs info to W??

[Cadet]

I would not send it.

Maybe later on you can but right now I would continue to do what works.

DB'ing is counterintuitive, so trying to tell her anything that might use common logic is likely to fail.

Like Starsky quoted

"You can't teach an infidel,"

I agree with that.
Nothing you say or do is going to force her to change.
You need boundaries to protect yourself.
She needs to decide to change.