I see your point here and it's valid. The quicker she's faced with having to decide to live with OM, the quicker she'll learn what he's truly like in the real world on a daily basis. However, emotionally, I can't handle the thought of my W leaving right now. I do want her to live out my changes I'm making with me so she can see them everyday.
I'm a little torn, because you are strongly encouraging that I lay out boudaries and hold her accountable for the A, but you end with "(please note I am not advocating exposure here, as that is against DB principles)".
I'm confused. If DBing and MWD does not encourage exposing the A, what option does that leave a LBS, but to DB and GAL and make positive changes?
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13
