Not Again?!

[newman7977]

DD,

If and when you do confront your W about her A, how would it look like? Are you going to let her know that you knew all along?

In my sitch, I am in the middle ground stance of DBing and love must be tough. I am more in line with HS and Starsky's approach. In my sitch, I wish I would've known the EA sooner. When I found out about the A it was a year later and the EA was DEEP. Although, I don't have any proof I think at least there's a chance of a PA. I confronted her there and then.

I believe in the addiction of the A. Look at my sig, my W went through a cycle of backsliding and I confronted her every time. It seemed that every time I confronted her it shocks her to the reality of her immoral decisions to have an A. I set out boundaries and not wavered them. But yes you have to be prepared that that could end your M.

I owned my faults in the M and my W sees it and my changes. I am a better father because of my sitch...and yes that change is for me. I have yet to prove I'm a better husband because she hasn't given me that chance. But I also realized that she has her issues too and WE both cause this in our M.

DD, you know your sitch better and this is just a food for thought. But I think the longer you keep the A going the deeper it will get.

You know your W better, but do you think she will respect you knowing that you knew the A and you didn't say anything about it?

Finally, get your ducks in a row..consult a L, know your rights at least before you confront her.

Good luck DD.

Newman