Separated, D filed, possible emotional affair

[MyNewStrength]

Wow JonF. Just reading up on your sitch. I wish your W could understand how you feel about the back and forth. She has doubts about her decision is what it sounds like, but she, like most WAS's cannot turn their back on "their" choice to leave if they feel as we (the LBS) wants it.

It has to be their choice. However, I do wonder if I will ever get to point where I am done completely that I wouldn't even want my M.

I think the idea of going dark gives you both a chance to think. My H does not want to think. He wants to have what I call a "extortion tantrum" - a sort of give me what I want or I will hurt you......by divorce, by separation, by name calling, by saying hurtful things....

Staying dark is a good thing...